**GASP**
"Oh my gosh, did she use the word 'sexy' in her title?"
Why yes, yes I did. And it is more or less the focus of my thoughts right now.
I know that to feel sexy, one must have confidence. And not give a darn what society says/thinks/feels. We know that our bodies are sacred and that we are here to be daughters, mothers, sisters, etc. We believe in modesty and respecting our bodies. I get that.
I want to look good too. There are times when I want to look good for my husband. I'm talking about going out on a date and wearing something other than jeans and a sweatshirt. And dare I say it? In the bedroom, too!
I suppose it comes down to what is considered sexy. Modesty is beautiful. I have a hard time finding attractive, modest clothes that fit. It seems as though when I find a cute dress that is long enough to be modest, the same dress is typically sleeveless or strapless. I know there is nothing that says I can't add a sweater or some sort of cover-up, but I hate that I have to add to an existing garment.
I digress. I guess my ADD is kicking in again.
What do you other modest Mormon Mommies (or non-mommy, as in my case) do to feel sexy? A certain lotion or perfume? That perfect shirt you found years ago? What about swimsuits? Do you guys opt for lingerie at all? That's my big issue. I love the illusion of it, but unless you have a supermodel's body, it just doesn't fit right and I feel silly.
So spill! Please! Do you feel sexy? What do you do to boost your confidence?
5 comments:
Haha, I always feel silly in lingerie too, Megan. Adam and I both just end up laughing over it. So, I quit wearing that stuff for the most part long ago. What I really like are just silk pajamas or night gowns. My favorite one is actually really long, but sleeveless and lacey. I don't feel selfconscious in it, but still feel girly.
Modest, cute clothes are definitely harder for us tall girls to find. Dresses are so tough. I usually end up opting for a simple, often higher waisted skirt and tucked in dressy shirts to feel feminine. With the sleeveless dresses, for some reason cardigans just never seem to fit right for me, so I opt for a tight fitting white, thin, short or long sleeve shirt with a scoop neck underneath instead of putting something over. Seems to work pretty well. Then I don't have to worry about a cardigan falling open and showing my undergarments, ya know?
Like you said though, feeling beautiful is so much about confidence and how you feel about yourself--and in a lot of ways, just a mind game. One day I can feel like I look nice because I tell myself that I do, and another day when I'm feeling down and start thinking negative thoughts about myself, then I feel ugly! Um, yeah, my body didn't change! Just my thoughts! So think good things about yourself! :)
Melaine, thank you for your comment!! I guess the whole lingerie thing comes down to garments as well. I see these super cute/sexy bras and underwear and I would love to wear it. But there's not really a point when you wear over your garments. Kinda nullifies the "sexiness" if you know what I mean.
Aw, I love lingerie. You just have to find a style that flatters your body type and you feel good in. I don't feel silly at all changing into something for extra curricular activities.
"Extra curricular activities." Love it. Plain and simple!!
I'm going to have to ditto Cathie. :) 100%
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